21st Birthday


Choose yourself first.

Those words may seem so simple that many of us will discard them and keep on moving with the busyness of life.  But, however simple they are, they ring true.

Let me repeat.

Choose yourself first.

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You are worthy of being loved, adored, cherished, and supported.

This is something that I’ve had to learn on my own.  Well, not learn, but remember it about myself.  I want you to remember this as well.

The truth is, your best interest may not always be at the center of someone’s life or agenda.  When this becomes apparent to you, you must choose yourself and put yourself first so that your needs are being met.  Too often, as women, we end up with the shorter end of the stick and we give more than many of those around us.  We want to take care of others, which is natural.  But doing so, at the expense of your own self, and not having anyone there to refill your cup until it runneth over, is not the way to go.  When we have nothing left for ourselves and nothing left to give, we are often left alone to pick up the pieces.

“Every time you say yes to something you don’t want to do, this will happen: you will resent people, you will do a bad job, you will have less energy for the things you were doing a good job on, you will make less money, and yet another small percentage of your life will be used up, burned up, a smoke signal to the future saying, “I did it again.” -James Altucher

If you are like me, you’ve said yes more than once to something that you didn’t want to do, just to please others.  I’m not talking about doing someone a favor or helping someone in need.  I mean completely going against your gut, against your own desires, out of guilt or some other feeling that makes you feel like what you want is not a priority.  I’m here to tell you, what you want should always be a priority.

Allowing yourself to do things that please and nourish your soul will allow you to be in more a happy and peaceful place within yourself.  Choosing yourself is not selfish.  Choosing yourself is the only way that you are capable of thriving in this world. The latter will only wear you done.  You cannot live your life by what other people want or need, and it will make you crazy trying to figure out what that is anyway.

When you choose yourself, it may make others uncomfortable.  It is not your job to comfort them.  However, by shining your light, it may inspire others to value themselves as well.

With love and light,

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